I’ve turned a corner with my work.
And I want to tell you about it.
Not because I think I’ve finally “made it” (whatever that means), and definitely not because I’m trying to brag.
I want to share this moment because for 5+ years I’ve been slogging away—writing, creating, posting, showing up—wondering if any of it was landing. Watching other people’s work take off while mine often felt like trying to push a boulder uphill alone.
I’ve cried. I’ve raged. I’ve been consumed with jealousy. I’ve questioned everything…mostly myself.
Still, I kept going.
If I hear one more person say, “These three things will guarantee success:
- Consistency
- Vulnerability
- Authenticity”
I might become homicidal.
If I were any more of those things, I’d be living in a glass box and live-streaming my life like a creepy piece of performance art.
But lately, something has changed. It feels like the wind has shifted and is blowing favorably in my direction.
I wrote this in my journal the other day:
I really do feel a tremendous momentum around all my work. There’s positive movement going forward, and that’s so dang exciting.
It’s not magic. It’s not a viral moment. It’s not a formula.
It’s me, five years into a conversation with the Universe that I’ve been faithfully, stubbornly trying to follow. Two+ years into leaving my full-time job to bet on myself.
It’s dozens of blog posts and videos, countless hours of networking, coaching calls, retreats, travel experiences, speaking gigs, podcasts…a mountain of effort that didn’t always feel like it was going anywhere.
And now? It is. Finally. Slowly. Unevenly.
But definitely forward.
Time—and the Reluctant Truth About Consistency
I think part of what’s finally shifting now? Time.
Not a single moment or turning point. Just time doing its quiet, compounding work.
I’ve always shared the hard parts—what it’s like to build something from scratch, to risk my voice, my story, my energy over and over again. I’ve never shied away from telling the truth, even when it was uncomfortable.
But there’s something else that’s been stacking up behind the scenes.
As much as it irritates me to say this—the people who chirp “just be consistent” weren’t totally wrong. I rolled my eyes (and stamped my foot like a toddler) every time I heard it. I wanted there to be a smarter trick. A faster answer. Truthfully, I wanted to see results from my years of consistency right now!
But dammit, I think they were right.
Consistency does matter.
Not just in showing up online—but in trusting your voice over time. In telling the truth, again and again. In not giving up, even when you want to.
That’s what’s finally paying off. Not perfectly. Not all at once.
But undeniably.
Why I Always Tell the Truth
Years ago, when Dr Marry and I shared his addiction and our marriage’s near-collapse, people were shocked. They’d only seen the beautiful photos—the joy-filled trips and sweet social posts. But we knew we needed to tell the whole story.
Not because we wanted pity.
Because we needed to tell the truth—the whole truth. The ying of the joy needed the yang of the hardship to be complete.
And what we learned?
Honesty heals.
For us. For others. For everyone desperate to know they’re not alone.
That experience changed how I show up in every area of my life—including this work.
I don’t believe in pretending things are perfect or easy. I believe in telling and working through the hard parts, too. That’s the only way I want to coach, write or speak.
Let’s Find Your Way Through, Together
I’m not here to pretend I’ve got all the answers. But I might be a few steps ahead of where you are.
Maybe you’re frustrated. Burned out. Questioning whether the work you’re doing will ever get the traction you’re dreaming of.
Maybe you’re wondering if you’re just not cut out for it.
Maybe you’ve been pushing that boulder uphill for a very long time, and it just feels like you’re not getting anywhere.
I see you. I know you. I am you.
You are making progress, I promise. But I also know that it likely doesn’t feel like that because you’re deep in the proverbial messy middle, and you can’t even see that there’s a corner just up ahead.
I can help you navigate it.
I don’t offer magic bullets or quick wins. But I can walk beside you, ask better questions, offer a different perspective and help you tap into the clarity, courage and creativity you’ve probably been burying under pressure and perfectionism.
So if you’re standing where I was—doubtful, exhausted, ready to quit—but still hoping there’s more for you…
Let’s talk.
Drop me a message or head to my coaching page to see how we might work together.
You don’t have to do this alone.
