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The disciplined pursuit of less but better
What I realized in writing this email was that while I love Personal Systems Disruption work and feel like it's a true calling, at this point in time, it's not serving my larger purpose. It's not leading to invited speaking gigs or the opportunity to write more content. Then I remembered Essentialism. McKeown paraphrases Jim Collins' famous idea: "Success becomes a catalyst for failure because it leads to...the undisciplined pursuit of more. The antidote is the disciplined pursuit of less but better." He says you must explore, eliminate and build a platform for execution.
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A reminder to be grateful to myself
Have you ever gotten a foreshadowing of a life-changing moment? I'm pretty sure that's what's happening, and I'm marking it here because it's easy to think I'll remember how I felt on this end.
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It only takes a spark
I’m taking a bit of a risk to write what I’m about to write because the woman who started this whole thing is an occasional reader of my work, and I’m not absolutely certain she will take this story in the spirit in which it is intended. But I’ve already committed the act, so either way, she’s likely to find out. I’m just hoping that, rather than being offended, she sees she actually inspired a delightful ripple effect in the world. The exposition (backstory for any of you not in the theatre world) Nicole and I have been loosely attempting to connect in person for the past three or so…
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Stepping away from an opportunity
Yesterday, we Ubered away from a networking and learning opportunity Dr Marry and I’ve been anticipating for months. And every mile we got further from the casino resort where we were staying in southern California made me feel lighter and better. How in the world did we get here anyway? Earlier this year, we had a guest on Daily Dose of Dr Marry & DD whom I had found and reached out to on LinkedIn because he posted his 33-year sobriety chip. It was only after he was on that I discovered he’s a big deal: NYT bestselling author of multiple books, high profile public speaker and more. After our…
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Pay attention and give thanks
I nearly missed this extraordinary sunrise because I was so busy looking down at my computer. I ran outside to capture the image, both for me and you.
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What do you do when the Universe gives you an answer?
How often do we beg, plead, ask the Universe, God, our ancestors, the spirits to provide answers to our greatest needs or desires?
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Some gifts are not all that obvious
What do I want in my own life right now? I want to grow my PSD work. What did Quinn deliver, completely out of the blue? The gift of his not only having spent time thinking about how to help me grow it but then the follow through of letting me know about it, too.
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My big takeaway from these last 365 days of disruption (and it’s got nothing to do with COVID)
But I didn't know, until I went back to read these old blog posts this morning, that I had started using the same words weeks before I left. I don't remember writing that phrase or even thinking that. And if I hadn't written it down in a place that I could go back to, it would just be lost to me. Maybe I wouldn't have been heard or understood the clear voice by the side of the field. Maybe the revelation wouldn't have even happened.
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A ripple effect of being married to an alcoholic enjoying sobriety
I can see in retrospect, and with so much more knowledge about Mazz in particular and alcoholism in general, that I was making my own sets of excuses. I was desperate not to believe what this person was saying about Mazz. In re-reading these exchanges, which I haven't looked at it in nearly 10 years, my stomach is tight, my anxiety is ratcheting up and I am immediately back in the swirl of knowing something is desperately wrong but not being able to articulate it. I don't know this because I haven't spent enough time with spouses of addicts or those in recovery to prove this theory out, but I…
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Change is inevitable; how you manage it is up to you
This weekend, seven years ago. I thought my heart would break in two and never recover. It was a time I had dreaded for a number of years: the weekend I took Quinn to college. I would never have chosen for Quinn to leave. I loved having him across the hall; I adored seeing him everyday, and our 18 years together flew by all too fast. But the thing is, my life, all our lives, couldn’t grow, evolve and get even better, until we accepted that first hard change of moving Quinn to college. Let me tell you a story from Quinn’s drop off day: Freshman weekend there were a…
